Secondly, it’s helpful to understand the bigger picture of why someone has attractions for someone of the same sex in the first place. Please read through to the end of my answer for more on that. The struggle can be a holy instrument in God’s hand if we let it. The struggle (against same-sex feelings) itself is not an evil. True brokenness is our broken relationship with God. He wants to heal the real brokenness, not just the symptom of the brokenness. He wants us to repent of the sin and separation from Himself that results in our brokenness. Being broken and fallen people, when we pray for that, what we’re really asking is, “I want You to make me comfortable so I won’t need You.” But Jesus doesn’t answer this prayer because there is something so much bigger than our comfort at stake He wants our hearts. So often, people pray and ask God to relieve their symptoms and make their lives easier (and this, of course, goes way beyond asking God to take away gay feelings. And it is the best way for God to develop us into the people He made us to be, permeated with Christ like character and maturity. Whatever our area of weakness, this is the very avenue by which God can reveal Himself to be strong, to be enough for us. Some people have physical trials others struggle with a weakness for alcohol, drugs, or other forms of self-medication. Which leads me to answer your question: why would God not take away someone’s gay feelings?įirst, because everyone has an area of weakness that makes it easier for us to recognize our need for God and depend on Him more fully, which is His design and intent for us. I know the culture’s pro-gay message is that there’s nothing wrong with homosexuality so just accept it, but that’s not God’s position. That would be like seeing the “check engine” light on your car and deciding to learn to live with it. I want to VERY respectfully suggest that “accepting one’s gayness” is not the best solution to the grief and sadness that comes bound up in realizing one has same-sex desires. I’m sure that has left a wound on your soul that troubles you to this day. Luckily, I have found a church that accepts me for who I am and I know that God loves me as does Jesus but I am always curious to hear the ideas and opinions of Christians on what the supposed cure for this condition might be.įirst of all, _, I am so very sorry to hear of your best friend’s suicide. I learned to accept it and now I’m 36 and quite happy. My best friend committed suicide when we were both 18 because he couldn’t accept that he was gay. I was reading your article about Gay Teen Suicides and Bullying, about how some people pray and pray for God to take away their gay feelings and there is a reason that he doesn’t that they don’t know about.